ideas if any on making wife more into my fetish

That is a tough thing to do. I would like mine to help me but everytime I mention it she laughs at me. Don't think she's ready to find out about my "other" side.

Well I have been through this a few times. I think the way you get her more into it is ease her into it slowly first. Then involve her, make things seem like her idea like have her pic out your clothes or outfits etc. Have "girls night out" together. And always make sure she knows that you will honestly answer any questions that she has.

Maybe get a few porn flicks that involve some femdom and see how she reacts.